Posted by Nicci | General, Health, Home & Hearth

While I am a good couple of years away from being forty, the topic of turning the big four “o” has come up several times this year. For starters Rent-a-Dad rounded that hill this year, sorry babe, and so have several good friends. Not so many of the men but quite a few of the women turning 40 on my Facebook list have made “40 b4 forty” lists.

Like a bucket list, this list is about setting goals of things you would like to achieve by X time. Like any big wish list it should be one that is filled with goals you can actually achieve.

I can admire having such a list and have considered making a 40 b4 forty 40 list. What stops me are many things that I know I would like to put on such a list but in reality probably would not accomplish. It is not that I would purposefully put something on a list and not do it. No, rather life (Murphy’s law) has taught me that if I make a list with more than five things on it that something will do its best to stop me from accomplishing those goals.

Considering that I have done some really cool things in my life so far, I don’t want to make a list of things I might not achieve in the next couple of years.

So why not make a list that seems more realistic, more attainable?

My life really has been about balancing lemons that come my way. Things never turn out the way I plan them to; sometimes badly and sometimes much better than expected.

Instead of focusing on 40 things I can do before I turn forty (40 things that will not go as planned) I chose to put a twist on the 40 b4 forty list. So here is my twist… 40 things I am proud to have accomplished by forty (heck… maybe I will add more to this over the next couple of years):

 

  1. Be there for my family (don’t loose sight of family goals)
  2. Share our family values
  3. Don’t loose sight of who I am and where I want to be (we all falter… am very lucky to say I have been able to find perspective and not loose sight)
  4. Worked in old towne Alexandria (specifically on King Street)
  5. Receive a college degree
  6. Operated my own business
  7. Member of Art League in Alexandria
  8. Artwork displayed in a museum
  9. Multiple art shows
  10. Worked in professional theatre
  11. Cut & style hair (in a theatre)
  12. Be a costume designer
  13. Run a nonprofit
  14. International travel (Ireland for work)
  15. Helped children other than my own reach for their dreams
  16. Inspired others
  17. Have a blog
  18. Define my own success
  19. Be able to continue passions had as a child into adulthood
  20. Keep in touch with friends
  21. Continue to celebrate and enjoy the fall season (festivals, farm visits and more..)
  22. Travel a road less taken
  23. Have a family vacation
  24. See the United States (been to 28 as of 7/17)
  25. Travel/Roadtrips with family
  26. Attend a variety of Renaissance festivals across the US
  27. See Williamsburg
  28. Go to Disney world (been now 3 of the big seasons)
  29. Show my husband some of my old haunts
  30. Visit the Wizarding World of HarryPotter in Orlando
  31. Go to a comic type of convention
  32. Meet David Tennant (bonus such a good picture someone thought he was my baby daddy)
  33. Meet and interact with people I loved since child hood (Captain Kirk, Bo duke, Hercules, Spike… yay!!)
  34. Be a foster parent
  35. Make costumes for munchkins in my life
  36. Enjoy bedtime stories with munchkins in my life
  37. Inspire the children in our lives to have passions (by sharing our own from cake making and photography to theatre and more)
  38. Share my creativity and love of “dreaming” with those I love
  39. Share our love of road trips
  40. Hike and have outdoor adventures with each other and the kids in our lives

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